Do you feel appreciated at work?

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I spoke to a vet recently who had just asked for raise, and was almost apologetic about it: “It’s not so much about the money, I want to feel appreciated for all the hard work”

Ok, so first, we should never have to make an excuse asking for more money. You have every right to earn a ton of money, have a nice house, your dream car, go on holidays and have your kids in the best school. You’re being nice to animals for a living, not selling cocaine.

But I want to talk about feeling appreciated.

Our feelings come from our thoughts.

If your boss does or says X, and you think “They think I’m worth it” or “They appreciate me” or “Wow, I didn’t expect that, how nice”, then you’re likely to feel appreciated.

Different people will feel appreciated under different circumstances, because we all have different thoughts.

If you’re not feeling appreciated at your workplace, it’s because you’re not having thoughts about it that are making you feel appreciated.

Now, I’m not saying you’re wrong. You may be underpaid, overworked, and never get free pizza.

But if you’re feeling under appreciated, it will serve you to look at the thoughts that are making you feel this way. For example “I’m not being paid enough”. Ok, look at that. Be neutral. Why have you not asked for a raise? Or if you did, how did you do it? How valuable do you feel you are to your workplace? How are you showing up every day?

Maybe it’s “They don’t support me”. Ok, so how would you like to be supported? In which specific case did they (and who are “they”, by the way?) not support you?

Write down the exact thoughts that are making you feel under appreciated.

Then get super factual about what makes you have those thoughts, really clean it up.

Because THEN you can ask exactly for what you need.

AND/OR change the way you show up, and assess what happens then.

Make sure you’re happy with how YOU show up, and with the value YOU are bringing to the practice. THEN you can consider changing your job if there’s a misalignment with management.

Too often we just swim around in shitty feelings, and we think others are to blame.

When you take charge and you’re aware of your thoughts, you can see no-one has the power over how you feel.

In your corner,

P.S: If this hit a nerve with you, then reach out for a free consultation to have a chat about how I can help you HERE​